Are You Acting Your Age?

At times, all of us wonder why we react in certain ways. You might say “I don’t know why I got so upset” or “I don’t know why he makes me so uncomfortable.” And the answer may lie in your past.

 

New research is showing that when something upsetting happens to us (a trauma), we store that event emotionally and energetically in our bodies. Now, this is no surprise when you’re talking about a natural disaster, crime, or auto accident. Of course those are traumatic! But we also store what I’ll call ‘little ‘t’ traumas’ – and these can be as minor as a 3rd grade teacher speaking to you harshly, or a parent’s angry comment. We all have lots of ‘little ‘t’ traumas – it’s normal.


However, traumas are re-triggered when something in our lives today remind us of the previous trauma. And here’s the problem: when we are re-triggered, we immediately have not only the experience of the previous trauma, but ONLY THE RESOURCES THAT WE HAD AT THE TIME OF THE ORIGINAL TRAUMA.

 

What does this mean? And how can this affect your business and your life?

 

Well, for example, if you were rejected at age 13 by a boy you had a crush on, that ‘little ‘t’ trauma’ may still be operating in you. Now, when you try to market your business as an adult, if a prospect rejects you, not only might you feel the same rejection that you felt at age 13, but you immediately have only the resources (maturity and coping mechanisms) that you had at age 13. And so you stammer, get upset, and behave badly – it’s no surprise, you’re acting like a 13-year-old. And according to cutting-edge science, it’s perfectly understandable that you do this.

 

While this may seem like an extreme case, think about all the things that you do in your business, and in your life, that you’re uncomfortable with. I know very few people who just love networking events. Most don’t like talking to clients about money. Many people are uncomfortable around technology, or many can’t seem to get organized. Do any of these sound familiar?

 

Perhaps you’re not concerned with a little discomfort in your business life. After all, business has to be work, right? And you probably work on yourself anyway – you meditate, pray, take personal growth workshops, read books, etc, etc. So why should you worry about a little discomfort?

 

Besides the fact that life is more fun without the discomfort, ask yourself – are you sure that you’re the best adult that you can be in that situation? Or is your upset child, or petulant teenager, coming out whenever something from your past is triggered? Is this the person that you want working in your business, or running part of your life?

 

And it doesn’t matter how much personal growth work you’ve done – if you haven’t specifically cleared the ‘little ‘t’ traumas, you’re at risk for not acting your age.

 

How do you know whether you’re being re-triggered? A good indication is whether you’re enjoying ALL your business and life activities. If you’re not, and most people aren’t, consider clearing the old patterns that are interfering. If you wouldn’t let a little child handle a conversation with an important client, make sure that you’re the best person (adult) that you can be.

 

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as tapping) is great for clearing those old ‘little ‘t’ traumas’. See www.MakeYourSuccessEasy.com/eft.php for more information.

 

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YOUR ASSIGNMENT

 

 

Take inventory of all of your business activities. Make a list of everything that you do in a given week or month. Do you enjoy all the activities? Do any make you nervous, upset, or do you put some off for as long as you can?

 

Now you’ll have to do some detective work. Ask yourself – What feelings come up for me around this activity? What does this remind me of? When in my life have I felt this same feeling? Find a specific event that produced the same feeling, and use EFT tapping to remove the charge around that event. Consider consulting an EFT Practitioner for help with this at first.

 

You owe it to yourself, and your clients, to be the best ‘you’ you can be!

 

Tapping Tips

 

(If you are not familiar with EFT, please download and read the EFT basics guide on my What is EFT? Page before doing the following.)

 

Once you have picked the old issue that your current situation reminds you of, you’re ready to tap. If you can’t find an old issue, just tap on the current issue. You’ll need: 1) the emotion that you felt; and 2) the specific event.

 

Setup statement (tap the KC point):

 

Even though I felt humiliated (or your emotion) when Johnny laughed at me in 6th grade (or whatever the occurrence was), I choose to completely accept myself, then and now

 

Do one round, tapping on each of the tapping points, using the reminder phrase:

 

This humiliation (or your emotion)

 

Do one round, tapping on each of the tapping points, using the reminder phrase:

 

I choose to completely accept myself

 


Email me at Pamela@MakeYourSuccessEasy.com  and let me know how you worked with those ‘little ‘t’ traumas’ and how you’re feeling now!