The Terrible Twos

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“You can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created it.” Albert Einstein

Usually this quote is taken to mean that we need new input, or some creative brainstorming in order to solve a problem. However, our lives are filled with challenges on a day-to-day basis. How do we get a ‘new mind’ quickly and easily?

Many of the problems that we face are caused by our emotional reactions. Fear, anger, irritation, and upset all make it harder to take productive action. They also interfere with our relationships. It’s like having a screaming two-year-old in your head saying things like
1) It’s not safe to put yourself out there.
2) Don’t ask for the business! You’ll get rejected.
3) You can’t charge more! No one will buy, and you’ll end up broke.

In a sense, the subconscious mind and the emotions, (the Terrible Twos) create a problem and we need a new mind to solve it.

Fortunately, we each have a rational, creative conscious mind that CAN solve the problem, if the Terrible Twos aren’t interfering with our ability to creatively problem-solve. Just think about the last time you were very angry – that’s a powerful example of being under the influence of the Terrible Twos. You probably weren’t thinking clearly, or making good choices about what to do or say.

In order to get your creative, rational mind working on a problem you have to calm the Terrible Twos. One of the best new tools to do that is tapping (also known as EFT, or Emotional Freedom Techniques.) EFT Tapping is a simple, self-administered acupressure technique that has been scientifically proven to calm the amygdala (the fear center of the brain) and reduce cortisol levels in the bloodstream (cortisol is a hormone associated with stress.)

If you’re already familiar with tapping, try tapping and just talking to yourself anytime you feel fearful or angry. You’ll be surprised at what 5 or 10 minutes of tapping can do.
Even tappers often forget to pull out their favorite technique when they are in the grip of fear, and instead try to work through a challenge, while being completely distracted by the Terrible Twos.

Here are some great times to use tapping:
1) When you’re procrastinating making sales calls.
2) When sitting down to write copy (if it’s uncomfortable for you).
3) When thinking about networking, or making a speech.

Set yourself a time limit – you can even set an alarm for 5-15 minutes. Don’t get distracted by anything but tapping, and don’t let tapping become a distraction. It’s just designed to give you a boost before taking on challenging tasks.

For more tips on tapping, check out ‘Tapping into Ultimate Success’ that I co-authored with Jack Canfield. It’s now available in paperback from your favorite on-line bookseller or retail store (and it still includes the 2-hour tapping DVD!)

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